Archive for January, 2012

Can we really? I have heard sermons on this and I believe some of you have too thus begging the question, can we really? This is the one and only mighty and supreme God who knows the number of hair strands on your head (Matt 10:30) and He who says He has engraved us on the palms of His hands in Is.49:16. The God who in Job 36:26 is said of, “How great is God beyond our understanding.” He laid the earth’s foundation (Job 38:4) and asks Job in chapter 38:2, “Who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge?” He can do all things and none of His plans can be thwarted (Job 42:2) so can we really stand before Him and ‘provoke’ Him to bless us?

In Luke 11:9-10, we are told to ask, seek, knock and we shall receive. It’s further reiterated in chapter 12:22-34 with the exhortation of not to worry about what to eat, drink or wear for pagans run after such things too and God knows we need them and Phil 4:4-7 which says we should not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving we should present our requests to God.. All we need to do is seek first His kingdom and all these things will be given as well. Let us not confuse this to mean that we seek God for the benefits that we will get from Him. This is condemned in 1 Tim 6:3-6 where it is written that godliness is not a means to financial gain but rather godliness with contentment is great gain, for we brought nothing into the world and we can take nothing out of it. Paul’s letter to the Philippians shows us how in everything he learnt to be content.

You wonder why am talking about contentment! Lack of contentment is home ground to alot of vices(sin) such as greed, lust and covetousness which go against the word of God. James tells us in Chapter 4:1-3 that fights and quarrels come from desires that battle within us because we want things but don’t get and therefore end up killing and coveting. It goes on to say, we have not because we ask not and when we do ask, we ask amiss to satisfy our pleasures instead of God’s. So, how then should So, how then should we ask?  James 4:10 tells us to humble ourselves before God and He will lift us up. We do not approach the father with pride and conceit but in humility and grace. 1 John 5:14-15 shows us how to go before God, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything ACCORDING TO HIS WILL, He hears us, and if we know that He hears us-whatever we ask-we know that we have. So the idea is to ask according to His will and you can only do that if He abides in you and you in Him (John 15) for then He causes you to have godly desires and to ask that which pleases Him. Phil 3:;18-20 “…Many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is on earthly things but our citizenship is in heaven.” Therefore, as in Col. 3:2, we need to set our hearts on things that are above where moth and rust cannot destroy.

Heb 13:5-6 says, “He will never leave us nor forsake us”, so we know that we have a sure help at all times. PHIL 4:19 confirms it by stating that God will meet all our needs according to His glorius riches in Christ Jesus. I have heard of people saying, ask, he is able to do much more than we can ask, think or imagine. But is that really what that verse means? It’s in Ephesians 3:19-20 and it connects with Eph.4:12-13 and what Paul is praying for is that we may become mature and be filled attaining to the full measure of the fullness of Christ in God. Thus, “Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably (to the measure of fullness in Christ) more than all we ask or imagine according to His power that is at work within us.” Phil 2:13 echoes it more by saying, “for it is God who works in us to will and to act according to His good purpose.”

So can we really provoke God to bless us? No! Not at all. For in Rom 9 we read all about God’s sovereign choice. God’s sovereignty means the supremacy of God in everything that concerns us for of Him and through and to Him are all things (Rom 11:36) and He is the one who worketh all things after the counsel of His own will (Ephe. 1:10-11). Romans 9:14 God says, “I will have mercy on whom I have mercy and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.” It goes on to say that, “It does not therefore depend on him that willeth or him that runneth but on God who showeth mercy.” So no matter what we do, say or think, God will do that which He desires and not that which we have provoked Him to do. God bless you.

Grace and Peace.

How are you?

We all love asking, but do we care for the answer

Or are we  just being polite

When I ask how are you, how do I ask it?

Am I walking away while asking it?

Or am I actually paying attention to your response

Do I give you the impression that I care and really want to know what’s up?

Or do you feel like I have just said a common phrase in a sentence

Do I hold your hand and sit with you when I can clearly see there is a problem?

Or do I just hurriedly walk away cause’ I don’t want drama

When I ask how are you?

I really want to know how you are

Are you happy, are you down, are you grieving, are you feeling too sinful

Are you weak, are you heavy laden, that’s what am asking about

I am not just asking you because it has become a cliche like ‘otherwise’

But I am asking because I actually care, I honestly want to know what is going on with you

And if I have never showed you that, then I am sorry

But the next time I ask

How are you?

Please answer honestly.

Grace and Peace.


Dear Pastor,

It’s me, your faithful congregant. I know you don’t know me, I usually sit at the back of the church and I don’t have physical stuff that will make me stand out like wealth and property, the kind that draw you to talk to people. I try to mingle with people but the cliques in the church are hard to break into but sometimes, I force a greeting on you but you don’t even notice who is saying ‘hi’ to you. I have suffered in silence for so long but I have realized the silence is helping neither of us.

I love the Sunday services, I love the music, the song and dance, the worship team radiant in their yet again new uniform, I love everything that’s done on Sunday to charge us up. I love the way you let your wife speak to us before the sermon starts, it makes me eager to have a godly man and I have also come to understand that preaching to a church is a man’s job, I love that you honour that. I also love the way recently, through the church fundraiser engine, we have increased the church seat capacity, and it is now a mega church complete with the latest technology, all in the quest to be relevant. I don’t even need to carry a bible nowadays, I read scripture on screen.  Did I forget the many ads you have put on the media networks to increase attendance to your church, you really are business minded, you should try business?

But dear Pastor is this all there is? If it was all about meeting in a super-charged filled up room, why am I still empty? If I am told to come as I am, why do I feel discriminated against because I don’t have? If the gospel is all about the good things in life, what am I to do with the bad that is always upon me? I sit at the back so that I can have a worm’s eye-view of everyone coming in and out of the church. If this is a place of comfort, why are souls so downcast, why are people wearing plastic faces? If you preach the God of love, why is there no love among us? I respect you Pastor, for it is a high calling to be a shepherd. I am reminded of Christ telling Peter (in inference, shepherds), to take care of his flock, to feed his flock and to love his flock. Those are the three-fold duty of a shepherd.

I am writing this because am suffering from malnutrition to all. When I come to you and you don’t even bother about me, you don’t want to hear my problems or rejoice with me when there is a good report, you are part of the cause for discord in church then, you are in opposition to your first role, you don’t take care of me. When day in, day out, you feed me with same food. You don’t even notice I have stunted growth for lack of other nutrients. I have Kwashiorkor because am eating only one type of food. You feed me daily with milk even after I have passed the weaning stage and desire meat, then, you are neglecting your second role, you don’t feed me. Lastly Pastor, for you to be able to take care of me properly, to feed me with all the necessary foods and not just choosing that which you think is convenient for you, for you to be able to go that extra mile, to even lay your life for me, you need to love me Pastor. Then, you would be in obedience to your calling. I write all this in love, representing a big portion of concerned and suffering congregants.

Yours,

Faithful Congregant.

MODESTY – A WOMAN’S THORN

Posted: January 9, 2012 in broken_pieces

I am writing this as a recovering patient of immodest dressing. By recovering, I mean I am healed but not perfect though doing much better than before thanks to His grace. Cause’ yes, I was saved but my mode of dressing was really pathetic. There was no difference between me and the non-believer. I was a lover of minis, man, didn’t I rock them. For me, it was no big deal I mean, I was just dressing my taste and body in those short, fitting stuff. So if men decided to look, their bad, not mine. I had no long stuff in my wardrobe, the only long thing I knew was a trouser, skinny jeans for that matter. Do not mistake me though I had all the good intentions when dressing, to please myself and God. I never had intentions to provoke men. But does that really matter?

Pastor Al Martins once said, the purity of  your motive does not negate the effects of your actions. That means, that inasmuch as I was dressing with pure motives, the fact that I was a stumbling block to many men cannot go unnoticed, rather ignored by God. Heb 10:24 tells us to provoke one another unto love and good works. But what do we do when we dress scantily or less modest? We are putting our brothers in a compromising situation and even though they have a personal responsibility to be pure we are not helping them in any way. We are provoking them to lust, to covet that which is not theirs and to probably fall into the sin of adultery or fornication because of that small mini or LBD.  Christ said if you look at a woman lustfully, you have already committed adultery with her. Then again, adultery is not one way, it is two way. The person who lusted and the person who caused the lust are both on the wrong.  Christ said woe unto the man whose hand causes sin. So like Robbert G. Spinney, I will ask, ‘are you an accessory to adultery?’  Do you participate in the breaking up of other people’s homes by the way you dress?

Jeff Pollard said modesty is not limited to sexual connotation. It is a state of mind or disposition that expresses a humble estimate  of one’s self before God. Modesty is first of all an issue of the heart before anything else. Until your heart becomes regenerate and submissive to the word of God, this will just be noise, just another note for you.  The bible says out of the heart flows the issues of life. How you dress shows us how your heart is. Yes, God doesn’t look at the outward appearance, but also remember Rev 20:12, you will give an account of everything you have done, good or bad. So if your actions have caused people to sin, better be prepared to answer for them.  Our dressing should make the same profession we do. Christian women should not draw attention to themselves in the wrong way. Your dressing should not scream, SEX, PRIDE or MONEY but PURITY, HUMILITY and MODERATION. Modesty is not just limited to sensual dressing, it also refers to overdressing in the sense of showyness or wearing expensive stuff so as to be seen. Moderation, should be our tag. Everything we do should be in moderation. This is seen in 1Tim 2:9, ‘In like manner, women should dress in modest apparel with shamefacedness and sobriety.’ It talks of decency and propriety not with braided hair or gold or pearls but with good deeds appropriate for women who profess to worship God.

1Pet 3:3 also says, ‘your beauty should not come from outward adornment instead it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is of worth to God.’ So dear christian ladies, do not be conformed to the dressing patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind. You are a new creation, the old is gone the new has come. Let us see the difference.  You were bought with a price therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which is God’s, 1Cor 6:20.

In finishing, I will not boast that I have attained the mark of modesty. No, for it is a daily practise it is daily dying to self and doing what God requires you to do. But I rejoice, that I have known the truth and by God’s grace I will attain it. Let us be decent women. We don’t want to see your cleavages, thighs, legs, bum or whatever it is you feel appropriate to show the world, SAVE IT FOR YOUR HUSBAND.  Let us fear God even in our dressing. Then and only then, will be women worthy of praise.

GRACE & PEACE.